Has a job ever left you holding back tears? You are not alone. By taking time to reconnect with yourself, you can start changing your situation.
Do you hold back tears at work? Do you find yourself sneaking into the bathroom trying to “keep it together?” Or do you spend your lunch sitting in your car having a breakdown?
There is nothing wrong with you.
And you are not alone.
Back in 2019, a poll by Monster.com showed that over 80 percent of respondents have cried at work. We’re guessing that this percentage has probably gone up since then.
So many people today are feeling increased anxiety and stress at work. Businesses are understaffed, oftentimes making one person do the job of several people. There is so much increased pressure.
Maybe you’re exhausted every day. You come home and can barely do anything besides zoning out until bedtime. You live for the weekends, but, even then, you spend half of your time stressing about how fast Monday morning is approaching.
The only relief you can think of is some time off from work. You save up all your vacation days but are too scared to put in for PTO. There isn’t enough support for you to justify being able to leave for a week. You might not have a job when you come back.
At MacklinConnection, we believe that you deserve to be happy at work. This is why we spent over 30 years developing a program to help you discover how to live a fulfilling life - that doesn’t leave you holding back tears every day.
Our desire for everyone to live a more meaningful life comes from having experienced exactly what you're going through now. We’ve been where you’re at. We’ve received assignments from management that left us feeling like we needed to throw up or cry - or both! We've hid under our desks and pretended to run errands to make it through a panic attack. And we believe you deserve to feel better than that.
When you are in the thick of it, it can be difficult to imagine a better situation. But there are some small, manageable steps you can take when you start to feel overwhelmed and on the verge of a breakdown.
It can be unimaginable from going from crying at work to quitting and starting over. This is why we recommend starting with making little changes every day. Each adjustment you make will put you one step closer to where you want to end up - with a job that doesn’t leave you crying in your car.
Below, we have some suggestions of ways you can connect with yourself during work to help ease your stress. Each action you take to connect with yourself can assist you in better understanding what you need from your job and how you can achieve it.
When you are under extreme stress, your body might go into survival mode. Taking slow, deep breaths cues your body that you are safe. If you start to feel your anxiety kick in at work, just take a few moments to yourself and concentrate on your breath. For more on the importance of breathing and how it can help you, check out our recent podcast on the topic.
If it feels like too much to ask for a week of PTO, start with just one day. Maybe take a Friday off every once in a while and treat yourself to a long weekend. Take time for yourself on this day off to decompress and unwind.
During one of your breaks, get yourself a special treat. Maybe there is a cookie you really like at a nearby coffee shop or a record store around the corner you love to browse. You don’t even have to spend any money. You can just find a beautiful place to sit or walk. Find 10 or 15 minutes in the day to look forward to. Segmenting your work hours with something enjoyable can help ease the worry you feel.
Get out as much as possible during the day. This doesn’t mean you need to go out and buy your lunch. Just find somewhere other than your workplace to have your meal. When you are in a high pressure environment, taking breaks from that space can be helpful for your well-being.
Music really can be medicine for the soul. Put together some of your favorite songs that make you feel on top of the world. In a chaotic moment or when you feel like you just can’t take it anymore, put on your playlist and listen to a couple songs.
Even though it might feel embarrassing, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you feel like crying at work. Unfortunately, this is all too common of an experience these days.
Everyone around you might be pushing you to quit your job. But that can feel overwhelming if you don’t have anything else lined up. And taking the time to apply for other jobs might feel out of reach when you’re so exhausted from your current job.
When you feel stuck in the stress cycle, start by connecting with yourself. It is through self-inquiry that you can step back and begin to see a new perspective. And by taking actions that feel manageable, you’ll be able to start making changes to your situation that don’t feel out of reach.
If you want extra support, you can schedule a discovery call with us about one of our upcoming workshops. Our program is designed to allow you to discover how to connect with yourself first, so that you can begin to create the life you want.
For inspiration on a healthy work environment, check out our article on positive work culture.